I’ve been struggling a lot lately with the ebb and flow of friendships. I came across this a couple days ago and it really struck something in me— finally, an explanation! While I may never fully understand why some friends seem to just fall off the face of the earth, seem to have less and less in common with me over the years, or why some never cease to stick by my side throughout the years.. I’m thankful for all of you just the same. Friendships and relationships are a tricky, tricky thing. Nevertheless, all of my friends (whether we had a semester-long friendship or a 17+ year friendship), have shaped and molded me into the whacky goofball I am today. Thank you.
If you’re struggling with the same kind of thing, hopefully this leaves you with the insight and comfort it left me.
“People come into your life for a reason, season, or lifetime.
When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. When they are there for the reason, it is because you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendships of a lifetime are clairvoyant.”